The manipulation character has such great desires within and as itself that it is unwilling to let go of these desires and will thus change the context of what is here within the physical, so as to ensure that its own desires are met.
Woman, the fairer sex have found that manipulation gives them a sense of power where the playing fields are levelled out to a degree, where they are able to change the context of meaning within a situation so as to ensure that they get what it is that they desire. This by no means is saying that men do not manipulate, it is only more prominent within woman as manipulation gives you the perception that you ‘have power’ without others actually knowing that you have manipulated the situation to ‘go your way’.
Manipulation is used in a few ways where firstly, we secretly desire specific outcomes but we do not want others to know that we would like to have these outcomes as these outcomes are usually based in self-interested desires that we have; so instead of informing others of what our desires are we secretly chose specific words, apply specific actions that will eventually lead to the desired outcomes that we have. This can happen in small events, such as where we specifically do not tell our partner of the ladies night that we had planned as we do not want our partner to crash our party or where we manipulate our parents by making statements such as “but all my friends are doing it”, thus manipulating the parents to feel that they should also allow it. In larger events we will construct an entire scenario to get what it is that we want such as for instance we may eye a specific job that a specific person has and in order for us to get that job we have to out maneuver that person so that they look incompetent in the job, so we start scheming, start creating gossip about this person, sabotage their work, thus manipulating events and the people in the work environment to start changing their attitude towards this person, while simultaneously manipulating them to start seeing yourself as better for the job.
Everyone is prepared to admit to the first type of manipulation as this manipulation is seen as being innocent, but there are not many people who will admit to the second type of manipulation as it is seen as evil; thus within and as ourselves within the second type of manipulation we will justify our actions to our self to such an extent that we ourselves will not even see that we had manipulated the event to turn out in our own favour. Here we are looking at the absolute secret mind where this type of manipulation is done as even we ourselves do not want to admit to ourselves that we are this evil; but once self has accepted to take responsibility for oneself in allowing self to see the thoughts in the secret mind, one is able to connect the dots and allow oneself to see how self had manipulated event to one’s own benefit.
Common manipulation in a marriage is where for instance a wife manipulates her husband in making him feel guilty for not doing enough, as the expectation here is that a husband looks after his wife and depending on the programming of the wife – she will have certain expectations as desires that the husband should fulfil and thus when the husband do not meet these desires within and as the wife, the wife will use manipulation as a means to squeeze out of her husband her own desires.
In the courting game we are continuously manipulating our partners or our potential partners to have a specific view of ourselves as we would like them to ‘want’ us / ‘desire’ us and thus we show our good colours manipulating them to see us in a specific light; but when the initial stages of the courting game is over we start manipulating our partners to give to us that which we desire to experience.
When we come to the conclusion that our manipulation tactics are not working and thus our desires will not be fulfilled another character jumps out – the nasty character – who ‘bites with words’, scolds the other person, blames the other person and judged the other person.
The nasty character is the one that protects the desires of the manipulation character and when the manipulation character does not get what it wants, he sends out his bully, his enforcer, the nasty character.
Yes the play-outs of the manipulation character are definitely not something we often speak about. In fact I've seldom heard anyone speaking this out loud. That's another point of manipulation, that we together agree to not speak about it and then we can continue doing it.
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